A sense of belonging is a basic human need. We all desire to be appreciated and supported by others, especially when entering a new phrase within our lives, such as our first year in college. Attending an institution of higher education is usually our first taste of independence away from home. Therefore, making friends is a smart initiative.
New incoming freshmen often meet friends who attend the same classes as they do or who find themselves dormitory roommates. Some become gradually acquainted other students through constant greetings while going and coming from classes
Considerations
However, there are several others ways for new incoming freshmen to make friends. When I attending the University of Milwaukee Wisconsin, I participated in many activities offered by the university, including:
- Chess clubs
- Student union
- Sports
- Free theater nights
- Recreational center
- Thursday night Rock-n-Roll night
- Self-initiated activities, such as study groups
These activities and more provided hundreds of opportunities for meeting friends and enjoying more college experience. Whether you are shy or assertive, you can find ways to meet a friend or two by participated in an interested project or program.
Positives
Meeting good friends in college can make the difference between doing outstanding in academics and struggling to find meaning in what you are doing. Good friends provide support, encouragement, strength and excitement.
On Friday nights and on the weekends when things can get a little boring, good friends come in handy. Going out for dinner or to a local sports bar to unwind is a good idea if you are into that type of activity. Or you can hang out in the student lounge and play chess with two or three competitive chess buddies and munch on popcorn or cookies.
Negatives
One of the most alarming things college freshmen must be aware of is connecting with the wrong people. Some students will be bad news. They have no intention take their college studies serious. Instead, they would rather stand around in the union talking and skipping classes. If you are serious about getting through college and establishing a career, you should avoid these types of students on every occasion.
Suggested action
Be aware of the individuals you meet in college. If you detect any amount toxic behavior in anyone with whom you are connected, you must disconnect from such individuals or groups immediately. Get as far away from them as possible.
You want to meet friends who can add value to your college experience, not those who don’t have your best interest in mind.
